Sombat Jitmoud on forgiving his son's attacker

Sombat Jitmoud explains how he can forgive Trey Relford, who pleaded guilty to complicity to murder in the death of his son, Salahuddin Jitmoud. Lexington Police Chief Mark Barnard praised the father.
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Sombat Jitmoud explains how he can forgive Trey Relford, who pleaded guilty to complicity to murder in the death of his son, Salahuddin Jitmoud. Lexington Police Chief Mark Barnard praised the father.
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Father hugs dead son’s attacker: ‘Forgiveness is the greatest gift of charity in Islam’

November 09, 2017 05:59 PM

LEXINGTON, KY.

Before Trey Alexander Relford was sentenced Tuesday to 31 years in prison for the 2015 stabbing death of a Pizza Hut delivery driver, the victim’s father forgave him during an extraordinary hearing.

Later, Relford and the victim’s father, Abdul-Munim Sombat Jitmoud, hugged as an astonished courtroom audience watched.

“Forgiveness is the greatest gift of charity in Islam,” the elder Jitmoud said during the hearing, which lasted almost three hours.

Relford, 24, pleaded guilty last month to complicity to murder, complicity to robbery and attempted tampering with evidence in the stabbing death of Salahuddin Jitmoud, 22.

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Had Relford been convicted at trial, he could have faced the death penalty.

Jitmoud was Muslim, and his death shook Lexington’s Muslim residents, who feared that it was a hate crime. Police said there was no evidence to suggest that.

Prosecutors, defense attorneys and Lexington Police Chief Mark Barnard, who attended the hearing, said it was highly unusual for the family of a slaying victim to extend forgiveness to a defendant.

“Out of something that is so tragic, there is really something beautiful here that is beyond really all of us,” public defender Shannon Brooks-English said.

“It’s a testament to Salahuddin that his family is able to forgive,” said Assistant Commonwealth’s Attorney Kathy Phillips.

Sombat Jitmoud has spent a career as a principal at Islamic schools around the country, including at Lexington Universal Academy on Nicholasville Road. During the hearing, he was called to the witness stand to give a routine victim-impact statement before sentencing.

Jitmoud, who now lives in Thailand, addressed Relford directly and said, “I’m not angry at you.”

“I’m angry at the devil,” he said. “I blame the devil, who misguided you to do such a horrible crime.”

Then, as a transfixed courtoom audience listened, Jitmoud told Relford: “I forgive you on behalf of Salahuddin and his mother.” (Salahuddin’s mother, Jamilah Linda Kay Kolocotronis Jitmoud, died in 2013, before Salahuddin was killed.)

After Jitmoud gave his statement, Fayette Circuit Judge Kimberly Bunnell wiped a tear and called for a break in the hearing.

When the hearing resumed, Relford’s mother, Gail Coote Bird, was called to the witness stand. After giving some history about her son, including his descent into drugs, she directly addressed the Jitmoud family. She acknowledged that the Jitmouds had agreed to a plea deal that allowed her son to avoid a possible death sentence.

“I am deeply sorry for your loss,” Bird said. “I thank you so much for comforting me and my family.”

When asked whether he had a statement to make before sentencing, Relford stood and addressed Jitmoud’s father.

“I’m sorry about what happened that day,” Relford said, wiping his eyes on the collar of his orange jail uniform. “I do applaud you because it takes a powerful man to know that someone has hurt them and to get up there and say what you just said. I can’t imagine the hurt, the pain. There’s nothing I can do ... I thank you for your forgiveness.”

Sombat Jitmoud stood, took a step or two toward Relford, and extended his hand to offer a tissue. Then the two shook hands, and before long the handshake became a full-fledged hug. Sobbing members of the Relford and Jitmoud families joined in a brief group hug.

Nevertheless, Assistant Commonwealth’s Attorney Kathy Phillips said, the forgiveness “doesn’t change responsibility.”

“This defendant still hasn’t accepted responsibility,” Phillips said. She cited evidence that Relford, along with two other men, called pizza delivery restaurants and stalked other delivery drivers before finally targeting Salahuddin Jitmoud for robbery. Relford had downloaded an app so his cellphone number couldn’t be identified, Phillips said. (A Fayette County grand jury didn’t indict the other two men.)

In a pre-sentence report, Relford’s only statement was that “some associates and I drove around making crank phone calls to Pizza Hut. On the second call, someone killed and robbed the guy.”

“This was a premeditated, planned and violent crime,” Phillips said. “His actions, not the drugs, brought him here.”

Relford maintains that others participated with him, but Phillips said the evidence indicated that Relford was the person who killed Jitmoud. “He set up the robbery, he provided the knife, he tampered with the evidence, and he is the one who ate the pizza afterwards,” she said.

Bunnell sentenced Relford to 31 years in prison.

The guilty plea was conditional, so Relford may ask higher courts to review several pretrial rulings that dealt with the admissibility of certain evidence had the case gone to trial.

In an extraordinary hearing, Sombat Jitmoud, father of slain Salahuddin Jitmoud, forgives Trey Relford for the murder of Salahuddin.

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During his victim impact statement, Sombat Jitmoud told Trey Alexander, "I forgive you on behalf of Salahuddin and his mother."

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Trey Alexander pleaded guilty last month to complicity to murder in 2015 death of pizza delivery driver Salahuddin Jitmoud.

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"Forgiveness is the greatest gift of charity in Islam," Sombat Jitmoud said during the sentencing hearing.

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"I take total, full responsibility for the loss of your beautiful son," Relford's mother tells Jitmoud family.

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Mother says of Trey, "My son is going to be a minister because God is giving him a second chance at life."

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Relford's mother tells Jitmoud's father: "Thank you so much for comforting me and my family" with Jitmoud's expression of forgiveness.

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Relford's father says of Jitmoud family: "I can't imagine what they must have gone through."

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